Beautiful women can be found sitting down reading, texting, writing or just resting. These are great opportunities to meet them. I was out with my friend the other day. He and I have very different styles of game. He is a naturally high energy guy, whereas I am more low energy. He also likes to stop girls walking in the street, whereas I prefer stationary girls, whom I feel are easier logistically to approach.
So it got me thinking exactly why I prefer stationary or seated girls, and how I do it. I think it’s very easy to manage the energy of the situation because the girl is not really doing anything just sitting there, so I can come in at whatever energy level I want.
There are basically two types of game as we know: direct and indirect. For girls who are sitting down (reading a book, texting on their phone, or whatever), there are two types of approaches you can do: you can either stand and open her, or sit down next to her as you open.
Indirect standing: The girl is sitting there doing whatever she’s doing. You walk into her vicinity, maybe you have your phone out like you’re reading some text from a friend or looking at a map. You do the indirect opener, asking for the time or directions for instance. From there you transition the conversation and if it hooks, then you sit down next to her and continue chatting. Complimenting something she’s wearing also falls under the indirect heading in this scenario.
Direct standing: This one is ballsier of course. You have to walk up to her with strong intent and do the direct opener, tell her she looks nice, or she is cute, adorable, sexy, hot, beautiful, gorgeous or whatever adjective you want. Once again, transition and keep pushing the conversation forward and if it hooks, then sit down next to her and continue from there. If it doesn’t, then you can just say “have a nice day” and walk away.
Indirect sitting: This one is actually pretty tricky to pull off. On the one hand, you are sitting right next to her which conveys a lot of interest, but on the other hand, the words you are saying do not seem to be conveying interest. So there is a mismatch between your words and your actions. This is not impossible to pull off, but you will need a very strong frame and confident, powerful vibe to drill through the awkwardness she will probably feel. Also, from a woman’s perspective, if you are confident enough to sit down right next to her, then why wouldn’t you just go direct verbally as well?
Direct sitting: This is the ballsiest and the most intense. You sit down next to the girl right as you open direct. For instance, as you’re sitting you say “Hi, you look really nice. I wanted to come say hello.” Unlike the indirect sitting opener, in this case everything is aligned–your words match your actions and you are sending a clear signal to the girl. Whether she is into you or not, she will appreciate your approach because she understands why you are talking to her.
These principles also apply to girls that are leaning against a railing. You can walk over and do standing openers, or (instead of sitting) you walk over and lean against the railing next to her to open.
With the standing techniques, you can open, and if it goes nowhere, you can always walk away. But with sitting, you are conveying a lot more intent and interest, and taking a bigger risk. If she isn’t into it, then you have to either stand up and walk away when she makes it clear she’s not interested, or you will sit there in awkwardness for a while and creep her out or piss her off. If you stay, you are also just wasting time sitting next to a girl who isn’t into you, when you could keep things moving and meet new girls.
One interesting situation is a crowded area, of which there are many in New York. In these cases, total strangers sit next to each other on park benches or the steps in a plaza all the time. So this makes things a little different. It’s not totally abnormal for you to sit right next to a girl, or very close, without saying anything to her. So you can wait for a little bit, fiddling with your phone or writing something or whatever, and then open indirect. However, what will definitely not work is sitting in silence for 5 minutes and then going direct as if you just noticed a beautiful girl sitting right next to you.